#1 Reason Couples Go to Therapy

Psst--It's not what you think!

I have a question for you today.  What do you think is the number one reason that couples call a therapist?  Or couples go get counseling?  Do you think it's because it's fighting about in-laws?  Do you think it's money issues?  Maybe they want to learn some skills about parenting?  I'll tell you.  The number one thing I get from couples who walk into my office is "Robyn, help us communicate.  We can't communicate.  We're fighting all the time.  You know, she shuts down.  Or, he throws a tantrum.  Help us learn how to communicate."  But, I have a secret for you.  When you're fighting, when you're shutting down, when your partner is throwing a fit, or is ignoring you, that's communicating.  There's definitely a message there, right?  You understand.  You understand that there is something being communicated to you.  Now, is it productive?  Not so much.  Does it feel great?  Not particularly.  But there's definitely communication going on.  And I just really want you to know that seeing a therapist can help you learn how to fight more productively, more respectfully.  Because I'll tell you something.  The happiest couples actually fight.  They fight quite a bit.  They just know how to do it well and they know how to come back together at the end of the day.  So, if you're listening to this right now and you're struggling and you don't want to struggle anymore, call me.  You know, couples even wait on average about six years of struggle and challenges before they reach out and get help.  And sometimes that's just too late.  And I don't want you to wait anymore.  So, today, if you are at that breaking point or you just feel like, "I can't keep doing this.  This should not be this hard."  It doesn't have to be.  Call me.  Even if you're not in the Orange County area, reach out. I can help you maybe find someone in your area.  Because I don't want you and your partner to wait six years.  I don't want you to wait anymore.  So give me a call if you have any questions.  You can reach me at 714-390-1652.  And let's just chat.  And let's get you to a place where you and your partner are communicating respectfully and productively.