Is a jovial pose with your newly-exed partner a refreshing sign of mutual understanding or a subtle, yet public way of avoiding the pain of divorce?
Today I want to talk to you about something I'm seeing all over social media these days. It's called "divorce selfies." Have you seen these? They're kind of blowing my mind right now.
Divorce is nothing new. It's been around for a really long time. It will continue to be around. It's not going anywhere. I get that. What is new is this new way of publicly celebrating with your partner.
You might have seen in the past people saying, "Yay. I'm really glad I'm divorced" and keep it low-key, amongst friends or confidantes. Today, we're seeing selfies with the divorced couple both saying, "We are so happy this is over. We can't wait to go our separate directions." Even people that have kids. They're really embracing this idea of "we are respectfully and honorably ending our relationship." It reminds me of, you know, some of the celebrities that have said "we've done the 'conscious uncoupling'".
And I get it. It's that divorce is going to happen with some people. What I'm curious about is, when we jump directly to that "Yay! We're free!"--I wonder about the part of divorce that isn't easy. The struggles, the sacrifice that comes with divorce, the dreams that we give up about being with that person and building a life, and thinking about how they go wrong or what could we have done differently.
And again, everyone has their own process, but I'm wondering, if you're so eager to get on social media and celebrate, I wonder how much of the struggle we actually have time to process before we're getting ourselves pumped up for maybe the next relationship and "now I'm free and I'll never have what I had with that person, I know how to not do that." And it makes me wonder.
So, if this is something that you're seeing and you have a comment about this, please leave a comment below. I'd love to hear from you.
If divorce selfies are a part of your life, great. If they're not, great. And if divorce is something that you're going through and you feel like maybe you need some extra support, give me a call. I'd love to be that source of support for you, or help you find someone who will be. 714-390-1652.